Well, I believe that love has become underrated in its true self, nowadays. Since Valentine’s day is around the corner, let’s see what’s it like to be an Indian lover.

Love is just a beautiful feeling. You can fall in love with someone’s voice, intellect, beauty or dance. It has no boundaries as such. Love is when yet another ordinary person becomes more than special for you.

I believe, love is unconditional. It is what keeps us all together and fuels the chase of your dreams. It is powerful and can make you the hero or the villain depending upon how you use that power. The love stories that we have heard shouldn’t seem tragic because the two of them died fighting for their love but should be celebrated as a symbol of love. They lived that feeling of love and that feeling made them go beyond everything else so they can be together.  

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Love Aajkal

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Nothing has changed much. In India, even today, people are fighting for their love and many people who loved someone else, are forced into arranged marriages for the sake of their families dignity. Some accept their fate while others end up dying.

While researching for this blog I came across this documentary by Qaushiq Mukherjee called Love in India. It talks about the land of Kamasutra which worships the lord of love ( Lord Krishna) but refuses to accept the act of loving. It is funny that the film was released 10 years ago and the situation of the problems mentioned in it has only worsened.

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You would remember how your science teacher would rush through the chapter of Reproduction in class 10th and how you would giggle or only be more curious to know. Only if sex education is given in India at the right age and such topics have been dealt with a sense of maturity and seriousness, teenage pregnancy might be avoided. Many people are scared of saying it out loud that they are in love because they are scared of the consequences and many falls under peer pressure of modern form of love because of FOMO.

Source: Hindustan Times

Also, people sometimes don’t understand the difference between love and lust so they end up being in an unhealthy relationship or attempt a heinous crime. Then there are severe heartbreaks where people commit suicide, honor killing, extra-marital affair, rapes etc.

Laws you must not neglect

1) Law against PDA

According to Section 294 of IPC, Whoever, to the annoyance of others;

(a)Does any obscene act in any public place, or

(b) Sings, recites or utters any obscene song, ballad or words, in or near any public place,Shall be punished with imprisonment of either description for a term which may extend to three months, or with fine, or with both.[1]

Source: NDTV.com

2) Live-in relationship

Cohabitation is legal in India as a “relationship in the nature of marriage” under the 2005 Act that protects female partners from domestic violence. Such partners can claim monetary and other reliefs under the Act.[2]

A child born out of a live-in relation may be allowed to succeed inheritance in the property of the parents, if any, but doesn’t have any claim as against Hindu ancestral coparcenary property and unlike within a marriage, the mother is the natural guardian of the child. However, it also means that the father is not obliged to fulfil any responsibility related to the child.[3]

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3) The right to love and live

The Special Marriage Act, 1954 replaced the old Act III, 1872. The new enactment has 3 major objectives:

  1. To provide a special form of marriage in certain cases,
  2. to provide for registration of certain marriages and,
  3. to provide for divorce.

Which is applicable to :

  1. Any person, irrespective of religion.
  2. Hindus, Muslims, Buddhists, Jains, Sikhs, Christians, Parsis, or Jews
  3. Inter-religion marriages.
  4. the entire territory of India (excluding the state of Jammu and Kashmir) and extends to intending spouses who are both Indian nationals living abroad.
  5. Indian national living abroad. [4]
Source: Hindustan Times

4) Law for LGBTQ community

It makes sexual activities “against the order of nature” illegal. On 6 September 2018, the Supreme Court of India ruled that the application of Section 377 to consensual homosexual sex between adults was unconstitutional, “irrational, indefensible and manifestly arbitrary”, but that Section 377 remains in force relating to sex with minors, non-consensual sexual acts, and bestiality.[5]

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5) Moral Policing

Moral police is a blanket term used to describe vigilante groups which act to enforce a code of morality in India. Supported by some of India’s laws and actions of police forces targets any activity is deemed to be “immoral” and/or “against Indian culture“. Moral policing is not supported by any legal authority in India as well as there are no laws yet to deal with the misuse of it.[6]
Other than these some major problems need to be addressed with better laws like the law of adultery that violates the law of equality, marital rape, denial of accommodation to an unmarried couple in private property etc.

Source: OneIndia

Conclusion

I would say, if you are brave enough to love someone or something truly (unconditionally), you deserve to confession it before it fades away in this cruel world( in greed of reciprocation). People are dying (for God’s sake!)  because they think they are not worth loving. If you want them to be happy, tell them that. Tell them the details you have in your head that you love about them.

In mythology, even Lord Krishna who had so many queens never stopped loving Radha because you can’t live without love. And yes! Love can happen as many times because it’s love that makes you fall for the person and no person can have control over it.

I know it’s difficult to understand but you need to.

11 thoughts on “The truth of Love in India”

  1. Very well written. Love is either underrated or commercialized but not felt, understood or expressed by our society. The change will happen gradually however for now we are the change. The more we are understanding, compassionate and empathic the better are the chances for Love to thrive.

  2. In India, many conservative families like us, parents do not know love and they think and strongly believe that their son/daughter have been over swept (through black magic or something) by another person. And they believe it so strongly that they would take every possible insensitive action to save them from that Jadoo an all (which is in parents thoughts and imagination) breaking the heart of their son/daughter (almost killing their inner being)..

    1. I think all our parents want is the well-being of their child and Indian parents never think their kids are grown enough to make their own choice so they always are protective towards them. Hence, it’s our duty to make them realise that your choices aren’t wrong, just different. 🙂

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